The finest art of communication is not learning how to express your thoughts. It is learning how to draw out the thoughts of another.
(Tedd Tripp, Shepherding a child’s heart)
In his book, Shepherding a child’s heart, Tedd Tripp asserts that biblical parenting involves both rich, full communication and the use of the rod. He challenges parents not to think that communication with their child is simply the child hearing what the parent has to say, but actually talking with the child.
Tripp’s admonition and encouragement are applicable not only to parent-child relationships, but to all relationships in the church, in that communication is not merely one-sided, but involves hearing what the other has to say (and drawing it out, if need be).