Brian Croft has a good post regarding the relationship of husband and wife, and the constant tending it requires. See the whole article here.
In essence, husbands should ask their wives “What are some things I do (can do) that make you feel loved, cherished and spiritually nourished by me?”
Wives should ask their husbands “What are some things I do (can do) that encourage you, make you feel respected and honored as the head of the family?”
Honestly asking each other these things should stimulate good discussion about the male/female, husband/wife relationship in light of biblical teaching.